Intelligent guys dating
Likewise, to say that men don’t want to date an intelligent woman is incorrect because many men do want a woman who will turn him on sexually and intellectually, that is part of passion as well.
However, given society today and the way many people ignore or deny how passion and attraction work, with so many women taking the lead in both dating and relationships, intelligence in academics or career may be detrimental to a woman’s dating habits.
Men use their drive, single-mindedness, goal oriented traits in both the boardroom and on the way to the bedroom. Their intelligence and creativity are used to entice and seduce the opposite sex. A woman who is driven, goal-oriented in dating comes off as desperate, pushy and aggressive.
It’s not that these are bad traits, but they go against the grain of natural sexual tension and attraction.
Rumor has it men are threatened by intelligent women. He’s not looking for a business partner, he’s looking for a lover, friend, partner, spouse.
This rumor is spread, for the most part, by intelligent women who are overlooked by men in favor of someone else who they deem to be dumber. As a matter of fact, intelligence isn’t really a huge factor in attraction. And therefore, his criteria is different for selecting someone than for instance your bosses.
And we tend to believe that a reflection of someone’s book smarts is how far they have gone in their career or education.
In the dating scene, to self-identified intelligent women, it appears true that men prefer dating women who aren’t as smart, who don’t have careers, who aren’t an “equal.” I’ve confronted men with this idea and heard rounds of denial that they love smart women and smart women excite them, but the reality is different.It implies that men want women who are not intelligent. Men do want intelligent women but they are not attracted to many of the traits that are very often found in high quantities in intelligent successful women. In fact, competition is the opposite of partnership. To be the better parent, to be a bigger martyr, to make more money, etc.Men want smart women but they want partnership and a lot of women don’t know how to leave their type A tendencies at work.Tension is defined as a feeling of nervousness and excitement.We don’t feel tension when we feel certain or comfortable.