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Even if she drank too much, and even if she hated men, her fundamental essence was untouched.
How I think of women who have been raped contrasts greatly with how I think of men who have experienced non sexual violence.
I don’t know how I expected a rape victim to act, but I didn’t expect her to be so funny.
Or to be punk, in this kinda sexy bleached blonde but kind of too lazy to really care sort of way.
If you told someone that a man had learned jiu jitsu after being attacked, I think the vibe would be “well, that’s pretty reasonable.” If a bisexual woman decided to date only women after being raped, the vibe would be “oh, she’s broken.”This belief in the “brokenness” of those have experienced sexual trauma is highly damaging. A few years ago, I was out getting drunk with a bunch of male friends, and one of them offered to let me crash at his place.
Still, between the ages of about 12–14, I had been bombarded with so much sexual harassment that I had normalized the feeling of it. Bisexual women experience a disproportionately high amount of sexual violence compared to straight and lesbian women, and that innately makes sense to me.I cried the first few times I felt it, but it soon became so common that I started numbing myself to it.By the time I was in high school, I was already fairly numb.Dan Savage told her she’d been the victim of sexual assault or attempted sexual assault.And, when I read that, I was like “how can she have been sexually assaulted?
When I went back to her apartment, the kitten was everywhere attacking everything.“I’m sorry,” she said, “I’ve historically been more of a dog person.”She was pretty open about her anger towards men, and her sexual orientation was difficult to quantify because her attractions included “any gender that’s not cis male.” Can’t say I blamed her.